During the Denver festival many people asked me how I was doing – I often replied, “I am in Heaven.” I am not religious, but I am deeply spiritual. I have experienced several transcended states of being, including profound bliss with very expanded states of awareness. During the festival, I entered into a transcended state of bliss. The bliss was not just being filled with joy, but a deep sense of everything is truly OK and magnificent. I call this state — the unbearable lightness of being.
The unbearable lightness of being is the kiss of the Divine. It is a state of truly being at peace with all. My spiritual cutting-edge is to allow this state more and more. At times it is unbearable. Let me explain.
After the festival ended, I felt deep sadness. Sadness at the seeming loss of the state of bliss I experienced for hours on end. Why I call this a “seeming loss” is that when I was no longer moving as one within the dance of Tango, I no longer experienced the deep bliss. However, the bliss is always available. So, why do I not experience this bliss consistently except in Tango?
In Tango I allow myself to let in this unbearable lightness of being. I do not resist experiencing the depth of my Self in Tango. When I move with another in Tango, when I connect with my breath, heart, movement, and reach out to my follow to feel her emotions and sense her response to everything I express, I let the Divine kiss me. Bliss ensues.
I am painfully aware that this bliss is always present, but I just resist it. Not always, but most of the time. When I am in the embrace of Tango, I fully connect and express with my core essence. I could do that at any time, but I often do not. This is my painful awareness.
And when I allow this bliss in, it can become unbearable. Unbearable because all the ways I resist bliss comes up and taunts me – shame, guilt and worthlessness. However, within Tango somehow I am able to just let all that negative taunting fade away as I focus on full connection with another. That connection only goes as deep my self-connection. Deep self-connection becomes easy when I focus on getting my Self out of the way to be able to move, breathe, feel and express with my partner.
I do not have big answers here on how to consistently connect with myself. However, I do have Tango that continues to show me and teach me how to let in the unbearable lightness of being, allowing myself to be kissed by the Divine.
Every follow I dance Tango with is another opportunity to be kissed by the Divine. And each kiss is bliss. If any of you wonder why I have such passion in my pursuit of learning and teaching Tango, perhaps your wondering is fading with these words.