Comments on: Living Between the Tango Beats

By: Ilona Glinarsky

Ilona Glinarsky — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 21:03:15 +0000

Hello Dave,
I found your insights very authentic, open and REFRESHING. I have a background in Spiritual Psychology and Human Development and having acquired many powerful skills of self-observation and awareness, I find Tango to be another very powerful tool or a DOORWAY into our own “stuff”.
I use my abilities to see through my own and other’s stuff and apply Tango as a metaphor for Life and Love.
Keep doing great work that you do…!!!
Ilona

By: Jan Kirk

Jan Kirk — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 00:27:58 +0000

Interesting. Thanks for sharing. I want ot know more about Tango Matrix. Seems it is more than a group of excellent tango dancers gathering to share moves.
Perhaps I’ll see you tonght at Pearl St Studios.

By: Leonard Krause

Leonard Krause — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 18:15:19 +0000

Dave, Aways wonderful to read your insights.

I think from my perspective, it all of this boils down to how attached you are to the outcome–whether as a therapist or in dancer.

To my knowledge, tango one of the few endeavors in life that is done collaboratively with strangers on a highly intimate basis; yet where the reason for doing the activity is completely unique to the individual. Unlike other similar endeavors which have ways to measure outcomes, none of this exists in tango. Thus, what we think and feel about the people we dance with–or don’t dance with– (unless there is explicit communication) is a total projection on our part. This is what makes tango such a mind-trip.

Additionally, the more I dance, the more I realize that the distinction between lead and follow gets blurred. I find the more experience I gather as a lead, the more I realize that I invite the follow to move; she moves, and I follow the follow.

That said, I find it really fun to dance with new or inexperienced follows. It’s like taking a girl for a ride on a Harley. You throw her on the back, crank up the speed; and she holds on for dear life. It’s an adrenalin rush all around.

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 00:15:11 +0000

Being a therapist sounds a lot like being a teacher. I also do it for the 5-10% of people who do their homework.

I hear you on the not compromising posture or balance thing. Unfortunately, it makes following really difficult with certain leads that would otherwise be okay dances if I *did* compromise. Live and learn, I suppose.

By: Ariel

Ariel — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 23:52:24 +0000

Hey, funny thing, I’ve noticed some simular things as well, one that stands out the most it following, I’ve found, I don’t follow and engage in following as much as did starting out, I feel I’ve closed off more. I have to focus more in order to engage in ‘following’ vs. patterned steps, though I feel the decree of this varies on the lead I’m with.